Be Brave Enough to Ask & Believe by Tyler Koch


Hi! My name is Tyler Koch. photo1the3ofusI’m passionate about my family, adoption & my relationship with the Lord. Throughout our journey with infertility & adoption, I have come to know the Lord’s love for me in a deeper way. I blog about infertility, adoption, faith & motherhood over at . I love sharing my heart & encouraging others to seek Him more.

My husband Cary & I were married in 2012 & didn’t wait long before trying to grow our family. In 2014, after trying unsuccessfully for over a year to conceive & being diagnosed with infertility, we felt in our hearts that it was the right time for us to pursue adoption. In February 2015, after 2+ years of hoping for a child, we welcomed our sweet Isabel Grace home! She is the perfect addition to our family & we absolutely adore her. The past 14 months of life as a family of three have been a dream come true. In exactly two weeks, our lives will be changing in a huge way again as we welcome a baby boy into our family through adoption! We are so amazed at all God has done in our lives over the past couple of years & honored to share a little bit of our story with you today.

Be Brave Enough to Ask & Believe

Almost 9 months ago, God put a strong desire in our hearts to adopt for a second time. At the time, our daughter Isabel was only 6 months old. It seemed a bit soon to start preparing for another baby, but the Lord’s call was unmistakable. We talked about it, prayed about it & God gave us peace & confirmation that adopting again was the next step for our family. So in August of 2015, we stepped out in faith to give God our yes for Baby K #2.

A few weeks after deciding to adopt again, we started brainstorming about adoption timelines, logistics & fundraising. After doing some calculations & evaluating our financial situation, we came to the conclusion that if we saved & fundraised constantly, it would take about 2 years before it would be financially possible to adopt again.

Ok, so let’s pause right here for a second… Did y’all notice how quickly we went from walking in faith to relying on ourselves to figure things out?! Why is it that when God gives us a dream we assume it’s on our shoulders to make it happen!?

Y’all, after we give God our YES, we can REST.

God has really embedded this truth in my heart over the past few weeks. Ok, now back to the story… 😉

Since all signs pointed to us facing a long, uphill battle, we decided the best course of action was to get to work preparing & fundraising for another adoption as soon as possible. Of course, we also prayed for God to provide & make a way for us. But if I’m completely honest, I sometimes struggled with believing that the Lord would provide completely. I wanted to believe He would but deep down, I struggled against old feelings of doubt & fear. I was hesitant to ask the Lord to remove the obstacles & afraid to hope that He would. Asking & believing would leave my heart vulnerable. What if I allowed myself to hope & was let down? I poured myself into adoption fundraising, but at times over the past few months, my prayers came almost as an afterthought compared to my plans & preparations.

As the months & weeks passed, I began to realize I was putting too much of the responsibility of the success of our fundraising on my shoulders & it was draining me. I could feel the Lord pulling at my heart & setting me up for surrender.

Three weeks ago I had a particularly difficult week. Things just weren’t falling into place like I’d hoped they would. I found myself exhausted, frustrated, burnt out, discouraged & desperate. I felt like I just couldn’t do it anymore…much less for another year+! I considered taking a step back from the adoption preparation. But in the midst of all of the confusion that was swirling around in my heart, there was also a God-given urgency that another baby was coming! I wasn’t sure how to move forward, but I knew something had to change.

I remember my prayer of surrender & breakthrough so clearly. It came on a quiet Monday morning after a busy weekend while my daughter was napping. I sat down with my adoption planner in front of me & realized I didn’t want to rely on myself for another second. Instead of strategizing about our upcoming fundraisers, I just prayed & sat in God’s presence. In the stillness, I felt Him say to my weary heart, “rest”. God didn’t want my efforts, He didn’t need my plans…He just wanted me to truly rely on Him. He wanted to carry my burden so I could walk with peace, hope & freedom.

“Give all your worries and cares to God, for he cares about you” ~ 1 Peter 5:7

It was after my quiet time of reflection with the Lord that day when I felt Him nudge me to call the director of a local pregnancy center. I’d been calling local agencies & doing adoption research for a while & had previously tried unsuccessfully to get in contact with this center a few times before. I picked up the phone right away & made the call. God moved through that simple phone call in ways I could have never anticipated!

Long story short, we heard about an expectant mother choosing adoption who still needed to find a family. All we knew was that she was due “soon”. Knowing literally nothing about her or the baby, we sent her our profile book (which by the way we hadn’t even made yet because we assumed it would be months before we would be in a position to need it). In the days that followed us putting our yes on the table, I experienced the Lord’s peace in a way I hadn’t in a long time. One week after we first heard about the birth mother, we were given the news that she’d chosen us! Within a month we would be parents to a baby boy!


In just 2 short weeks, which will be exactly 9 months from when God told us to start preparing for another baby, we will meet our son for the first time!

The Lord’s fingerprints are all over the details of this adoption. The way things fell into place is miraculous. The fees are only a third of what we were expecting. The situation has been more stable, healthy & smooth than we could have dreamed or imagined. God removed the obstacles & made the impossible, possible… We are amazed by God’s goodness & give Him all the honor & praise!

“Now to him who is able to do immeasurably more than all we ask or imagine, according to his power that is at work within us” ~Ephesians 3:20

The Lord has used adoption to once again refine me. He’s used this crazy process to love me & show me more of Himself. He has removed fear & doubt from my heart & made me brave! I am amazed by His plans & grateful for His grace over my life.

I want to encourage you today to be brave enough to ask God for the desires of your heart. Ask Him to move that huge mountain, that overwhelming obstacle… Ask Him to heal you, ask Him to provide. Ask Him to do the impossible in your situation. Whatever you need…bring it to Him fully.

I want to challenge you to not only ask, but to be brave enough to believe that He can & will make a way for you. Don’t hide behind your defenses & rely on your backup plans… Resist the temptation to try to make it on your own strength or figure things out on your own. We miss so much of what God wants for us when we don’t walk hand in hand with Him!

I challenge you to lower the walls around your heart & believe that His power alone is enough for your situation. Be brave enough to trust Him with your most sacred desires & dreams! Believe that He can & He will fulfill His promises to you. Proclaim that He can & He will break any & all chains binding you. He won’t start something in you & then put it on your shoulders to finish alone. God can & will do abundantly more than you could ever ask or imagine because He is a good, good Father… It’s just who He is! And you, my dear, can rest your weary heart & find hope knowing that you are loved by Him…

Let the truth & power of who He is make you brave!

I hope our story encouraged your heart today!

We would appreciate prayers as we prepare our hearts & lives for the birth of our son. We are still a few thousand dollars short in adoption fees, but are confident the Lord will provide! If you feel led to give, you can do so through our YouCaring page:


With love,



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