the husband.

I’m already crying… I can’t put into words, but I’m gonna try, how much I love and admire this man that I call mine. He is the man of my dreams. He is everything that I wanted, but didn’t know I needed. He is truly a much better human than me, yeah, that pretty much sums it up.

This journey that we’ve been on to grow our family as not been full of smiles, laughs, and good times. Don’t get me wrong, we’ve come to a place of contentment and there will always be joy, but there are dark days. He is there, he will always be. He has proven that he isn’t going anywhere. This journey could have easily torn us down or even torn us apart, not gonna happen. It can’t. We will prevail and we will tell our story. The story of what God did in us, to make what we wanted into what He wanted.


I know for a fact that women on this journey with me sometimes wonder if their husbands get it … I will tell you that they do. It took me years to not be silently upset because my husband wasn’t reacting the way I wanted him to or thought he should. Women that I admire and love, he was reacting, he was protecting you.

For husbands, this means love your wives, just as Christ loved the church. He gave up his life for her. Ephesians 5:25

When I read that verse, I immediately think of protection and I do not think there is a higher form of protection than giving your life for someone else’s. I have seen this happen right before my eyes, I have seen my husband lay his life down, for me. I believe with my whole heart that my husband is laying his life down daily so that I can go from day to day knowing that I am secure and taken care of. I can see it all over my husband’s face. I can see the love he has for me, when he makes me smile or brings me my favorite dark mocha latte home or comes in the door ready to hug&sway {that’s my favorite thing the world, by the way}. I also see the pain he feels that our dreams have not come true. He does feel and know, he does get it. Here’s the deal, he doesn’t want my pain to increase, so he is loving me so well that the pain turns into this unyielding love for him and my Jesus. He deals with it a different way, a way that doesn’t magnify my pain. My husband is a protector and I am thankful. Every day, I am thankful for him.


I hope this encourages those of you that are wondering if you husband gets it. He does, be patience with him and let him love you. As always, thank you for loving us. I do not say this enough, but if you ever want to contact me, I would LOVE that! Please do not hesitate to connect with me. {email: // IG: @kbirkeland}

Mucho love,



  1. Thank you for the wonderful reminder that our husbands do get it. My husband definitely deals with the pain and hardships in a different way, but he’s always there for me. Good luck to you in your journey. I pray that your blessing will come soon!

    • Thank you so much for reading 🙂 I am so glad your hubs is there for you! They play such an important role in this journey. I’m hoping that baby comes soon too! 🙂

  2. Love this!!! I feel the same way about my husband…he’s everything I didn’t even know I needed. 🙂

  3. daisyrhonda says:

    Thank you for sharing this!

  4. This is really beautifully written. Too often, our husbands get overlooked for also having pain. I’m glad you acknowledge and love your husband the way you do. That’s really awesome!

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