August Adoptive Fam :: The Eby Fam

Hey guys! We are so excited and honored to be August’s CTPA feature family! When we applied months ago we never dreamed we’d actually be chosen! So imagine my surprise when I saw an email from Kailey in my inbox a few months back! Our hopes are that through this month, we can share our hearts with you surrounding adoption and be a light to you every day. We call our story, our God story because, well… you will see ☺

Seth and I (Brittany) met at Shepherd University in January of 2010 when we were partnered up in an education class. He was so sweet and innocent and had the most gorgeous green eyes I’d ever seen. I made a big fool out of myself (we joke about this very often in the Eby household). Seth was an outspoken Christian and I claimed to be a Christian, yet lived as if God didn’t exist (cue as to why I said something inappropriate to him 2 minutes after I met him). I was also in a 5 year relationship at that point with someone else.

 And that was the end…until November of 2010 (I was single now) when we reconnected through me telling a little white lie so I could have an excuse to talk to him (this is inside joke #2 that I get picked on about often). It’s like a light bulb clicked and we each thought “I like Seth! I like Brittany!” We officially started dating on December 14, 2010. Our love for each other quickly grew as well as our love for and understanding of Jesus. God brought Seth into my life during a very low point and used him to lead me to Christ.

8 months later, we were camping at Raystown Lake with Seth’s family when he took me out on the lake one evening in his dad’s boat to do our daily devotions together. I don’t remember being suspicious, but hopeful since we’d been discussing marriage for some time. We read our devotional together as normal, but then he read Ephesians 5 to me (it’s all about marriage). I started to get anxious and thought, “maybe this is it!?” Then he read me a poem that he had written just for me. The last line read “It’s your favorite, a princess cut.” He was so nervous he couldn’t even get the box opened! Of course I said yes and couldn’t wait to get back to the campsite to call and tell everyone. We were so excited we even started the guest list that evening ☺ 

We were married 11 months later on July 14, 2012 at the church Seth grew up in. It was a beautiful time of worship and celebrating with family and friends. We have been married for 7 years now and continue to learn more about each other every day. It’s not always easy, because we are opposites, but we complement each other perfectly. Our friends even often refer to us as fire and ice. 

Fast forward almost 2 years later when we started seriously considering trying to conceive. I was all in! I was ready, but Seth was hesitant because he still hadn’t been able to secure a full time teaching position since we graduated college 2 years ago. He wanted to try to have children too, but also wanted to ensure he could provide for us all. It was a battle. He went through a few weeks of serious fasting and prayer and at the end, decided that we would trust God and try to have a baby. Within the next few days, Seth received 4 different requests for interviews! Guys, the very next day after we decided to trust God fully, he lined up teaching interviews! The result of those interviews was Seth securing a full time teaching position…praise God!

 4 months later we found out we were expecting our first child, but there’s a God story here too. I feared I wasn’t getting pregnant sooner because I worked in a very high stress environment. I was a PCA working with children who were very violent and aggressive. I spent my days being verbally and physically assaulted and constantly worrying that if I was pregnant I would lose my child. One day in November, I felt God was calling me to lay down this job, right at that very moment! I knew that if I became pregnant, I wasn’t safe. So I quit! And the very next cycle I was pregnant! Right around the time I quit, I would have conceived! God knew and he protected us.

Greyson Daniel was born on August 10, 2015 (6 days late) at 1:32 am after 2 days of labor. He was perfectly healthy and opened our hearts and minds to a love that we didn’t even know existed this side of Heaven. Today he is a super active, curious, imaginative, rambunctious, very social, almost 4 year old little boy. He loves reading, playing with vehicles, snuggling, wrestling his brother, claiming any living bug or insect as his pet, and playing at the park. 

We knew we wanted children who were about 2 years apart in age, so when Greyson was about 15 months old we started to try to have another baby. 2 cycles later, we were pregnant. We went in for my first appointment at about 11 weeks to hear the baby’s heartbeat for the first time. We were all so excited! After maybe 10 minutes or so of looking with the doppler for the heartbeat with no success, they switched to their ultrasound machine. Still no heartbeat. By this time I’m fearing the worst, but trying to hold it together for Seth and Greyson. They had me go to the bathroom and empty my bladder so they could try an internal ultrasound next. I remember feeling so small while walking to the bathroom and just constantly crying out to God for my unborn child. To please not let me lose my child. For there to be life! I went back in the room and lay on the table, knowing what the midwife and nurses must be thinking. They were preparing for the worst. A few minutes later we heard a sound that must be just as lovely as the voices of angels, our child’s heartbeat! Our child was alive, but seemed to be measuring small, so they ordered an ultrasound at the hospital next door. Thankfully they could fit me in right away. After the longest wait ever, they called us back and began the ultrasound. Our baby was measuring perfectly and right on track! The heartbeat was strong and steady! Thank you Jesus! (Side note: we immediately had to rush to make our appointment to look at a potential home to purchase. We considered cancelling because of the stressful afternoon and knowing we would be late, but didn’t. That home just happens to be the home we live in today!)

Jenson Oliver was born on September 14, 2017 (his due date) at 6:54 am after a very short, but intense, 5 ish hours of active labor. Once again, our hearts expanded to a capacity we didn’t know was possible. All of the fears we had about being able to love him as much as his brother and to love 2 children and share ourselves disappeared the moment we held that baby boy. Today, Jenson is a very shy, smiley, cuddly, funny, and independent almost 2 year old. He loves to do whatever his older brother does, he loves to swing, play with vehicles, play outside, make you laugh, snuggle his doggy, and sleep. Our children are opposites, just like Seth and I are.

We always knew we wanted to adopt and planned to have 2 biological children and then adopt our 3rd child. We announced our adoption plans last October and immediately started fundraising. We completed our homestudy requirements in December and became an active family with CAC in January. Now, we are just waiting to be chosen and matched with an expectant mother. Our hopes are that we will welcome a daughter into our family sometime this year.

Love,

The Eby Family

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