April Adoptive Family :: Beth & Matt

Matt and I met 10 years ago when we sat down in a church pew during his first month of college. We were friends for a year and dated for 3 years before we were married in the same church where our love story began. 

Two years after we were married, we had our beautiful daughter, Nora. We always knew we wanted more than one baby, so when Nora was around 18 months old we began talking about growing our family again. 

A couple months later, I was diagnosed with Graves disease, an autoimmune disease that attacks the thyroid and causes health problems. After consulting with specialists and trying to control my thyroid problems with medication, it was decided that the best course of action was to have my thyroid surgically removed. I had the surgery in January of 2016 and began the road to recovery. While the setback in our timing was frustrating, we knew that once I was healthy, the plan have another baby would be back on track.

When Nora was around 9 months old, we experienced a miscarriage. While it was heartbreaking, we also knew that many women (1 in 4) experience the same loss. We didn’t doubt that when it was time to have another baby, we wouldn’t have any trouble. 

Since I had been diagnosed with Graves we had begun talking seriously about adoption. the endocrinologist I had informed us that, while it doesn’t happen often, Graves disease can cause infertility. We were prepared that I may not be able to have more biological children, but we never quite believed it. We put plans in place to hopefully maintain my fertility and achieve pregnancy as soon as possible once my thyroid was removed.

Several months after my surgery we experienced our second miscarriage, and then our third. It was then we began seeking medical advice and I underwent genetic testing to determine why this was happening. After being diagnosed with the MTHFR mutation and beginning some health changes to help, we were sure another biological baby was right around the corner. We lost 6 sweet babies before I was given a blanket “secondary infertility and reoccurring miscarriages” diagnosis and told to not continue trying.

When we had our 6th miscarriage we felt so defeated. We knew we wanted more children. Our daughter is amazing, she’s the absolute light of our lives, but the desire to have another child was not something that was going to go away. Every time I held a positive pregnancy test in my hand, we were met with a feeling of “hopeful optimistic” only to feel crushed over and over again. I gave away two big sister shirts over the course of 3 years because Nora outgrew them, and then I stopped buying them.

 We had always wanted to adopt, but it usually came down to timing. Isn’t that how it always goes? Get pregnant this year, baby will get bigger, have another baby, baby will get bigger, then we’ll adopt. It’s funny now thinking about how we wanted our kids no more than 3 years apart and now, I’m so thankful for this time with Nora.

We spent a lot of time having the difficult conversations that come with deciding to begin this journey. We talked about all the avenues of adoption and how it would look for our family and more than talking, we prayed. In January of 2016 Matt and I decided that we were going to adopt our next child. We began the process and are home study approved with an agency here in Colorado. We can not wait to bring a new baby into our family.

We are so thankful for the story that the Lord is writing for our family.

Love,

The Howard Family

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Comments

  1. Congratulations! While my husband and I want to conceive a biological child, I do know that one day I will most likely adopt as well. I think it’s such an incredible thing. My sisters are adopted and it will always hold a special place in our hearts! The farther we progress on the path of infertility, the more seriously we consider it. But, for now, we are keeping on keeping on to try to concieve!

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